That would've been a cute idea if you two were dating. H isn't responsive right now to such things, so courting him like that isn't going to go over big, and most probably he was at the bar because he didn't feel like coming home to you... ouch... sorry about that. I used to live in a neighborhood that had one of those "gin mill" neighborhood "old man" bars... the guys have been married for eons and can't stand their wives or home life so they go to the bar right after work and stay there until it's bedtime. Ouch again. But what a miserable life, huh? Let's work on making our lives better than theirs.
Build up your friendship by being a friend and listen to him when he wants to talk and validate his feelings. Give him space. You were on the right track when you started your thread. Stay away from pursuit type of behavior right now.
