Recovery is possible if a commitment from both parties is made. Maintain a calm attitude anytime you are in conversation with your H.

Great advice. I just responded on your other post with similar advice so this oughta tellyou something. Anyhow whats with this :I let him blame me crap. Just calmly say no it takes two- to make or break a relationship and I'll take only half of the blame for you not being happy. But your infidelitys are YOUR CHOICE on how to solve YOUR problems.