BQT,

Who is unhappy, you or your H? Both? I understand the difficulties caused by an affair. However, they can be overcome. Often times the guilt and shame associated with an affair are a difficult phase for the betrayer to handle. They can become depressed.

i suggest the following websites along with Divorce Busting. They will have some different points of view for you to digest. www.marriagebuilders.com www.saveyourmarriagecentral.com www.smartmarriages.com www.family.org

Recovery is possible if a commitment from both parties is made. Maintain a calm attitude anytime you are in conversation with your H.

Keep posting, others will respond.

Steve