Martha - Yes, slowly prevails I need this reminder every now and then. Thank you also for highlighting that he is looking for security, and is probably charting the safest possible course. I must be sensitive to this. Over lunch just now, we got chatting about our mortgage, and I was making some suggestions. For every one, he would ask me why I put that forward. In fact, anything I say out of the ordinary, he will ask why, as if looking for a hidden meaning. Makes conversation very difficult sometimes.
But, we are heading in the right direction, and yes, I need to be better friends with her, Patience.
I need this reminder every now and then. Thank you also for highlighting that he is looking for security, and is probably charting the safest possible course. I must be sensitive to this. Over lunch just now, we got chatting about our mortgage, and I was making some suggestions. For every one, he would ask me why I put that forward. In fact, anything I say out of the ordinary, he will ask why, as if looking for a hidden meaning. Makes conversation very difficult sometimes. 
