Slowly, honeybun! I am going to coach you now. If you want spontaneity in your R, be spontaneous! If you want to know how he's coping, ask him!
You can be spontaneous a zillion ways -- tell him you love him, breakfast in bed, have some unusual meal, DO A 180!
On "how he's coping" -- you could ask him. And you could also ask yourself if you already know the answer. Have you read the book "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell? He says we are all experts in day-to-day living. You are the expert on your M. How do you think he's coping? Is that knowledge enough for you? Or is what you really want something different? Like a big "clear the air heart to heart". Or, in Betsey's terms, an "exit interview." Perhaps, in your case, "a re-entry interview."
Figure out what you want and why you want it and I'll bet you'll be able to answer a lot of your own questions.
Now, I have been to the gym and stink to high heaven -- and have a client in 30 minutes. Can I pull off a shower and the requisite primping in time? You bet!
