Hi Michele - Good idea. I'll have to fold this into my approach. To be honest, I've been a little nervous about taking any lead, as it could have come across as pursuing. But, in our case, pursuit could well be a 180 as I am guilty of only responding in the past Certainly something can change here.

NG seems to be most content when his circle is just so, I suppose his LLs are:

Quality time - it seems important for him to feel that I'm in the same 'space' as him - not just physically, but mentally (enjoying the same program on tv for example) and emotionally (tired, relaxed, engaged etc). This is actually very hard for me, as I'm a restless soul who needs to be doing things all the time, so I've had to learn a lot, and it has helped me as I have carved out time to reflect.

Words of affirmation - he tries to hide this LL, and is certainly not good at dishing it out, but I have noticed a lightness in his step when he has been able to bask in WOAs. Especially when it is R related. So me thinks this is how I'll tackle the suggestions.

Its a beautiful sunny spring day here and we are both working from home. We both seem to be most at peace when this happens.

Slowly

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