Slowly, I don't know whether you're a writing gal or not, but sometimes it helps to get ideas and thoughts out of your head and onto paper.
You could make a column entitled "What's Always Worked", another titled "What Never Works" and one called "What's Working Now"... maybe one "What's Not Working Now".
Then write away!
It could help you frame up how to get back into DBing, by giving you a real list. I'm a list girl, so I know this tactic works for me.
The only other thing I can think of is this -- there's your business, his business and God's business. I have found such peace giving myself permission to not get involved in anyone's business but my own. That means I have stopped spending much time speculating what others think or feel. How can I really know unless they tell me? Believe it or not, it's freed up a ton of time for me!
I hope today finds you in a better spot, ready to pick up the DBing challenge again. The dirty little secret we all know is that DBing is really about helping ourselves -- so maybe you can think of it as a treat for Slowly!
