Its a wet Saturday afternoon and we are happy to be at home, just pottering around. At least we were until about an hour ago, when NG sat down to an intensive session on his laptop. I'm in serious danger of wigging out - is he on email to ow So here I am for some theraphy
Martha - Thanks so much for the feedback - I rather suspected his acute introvertedness to be at the root of this, but its good to have some agreement. I'm only just begining to understand just how emotionally drained he seems to be after any social contact, even a few hours at work. And, just how difficult he finds it to process more than one issue at a time - more so than the normal male, shall we say The thing with the computer is nothing more than that, because I've cleaned up the drives. He just did not want to deal with potential hitches, so this is something I'll deal with when he is out of town. Remember the new wardrobe and bedroom revamp I did when he was out of town? He still recalls what a relief it was not to have been around when it was done.
Andrea - you have caught one of his tendencies - the procrastination over decisions, but then silently seething when the decision is not exactly as he wanted. For example, this morning we had to sort out some things at the bank, and in my new persona, I just agreed with all his suggestions. At one point, he snapped out a 'don't you have any opinion' out at me - after which I offered a couple of suggestions which he immediately shot down. So back we went to doing things his way. Incidentally, one of the things we had to sort out was an emergency topping up from our savings to his current account - something I used to do, and now he knows I will no longer be responsible for, and is fully aware he messed up, so I understand there was much frustration at himself too. He procrastinated over the transfer a month ago, expecting me to relent and carry the chore, and when I did not, he got into trouble. When I help, he is annoyed, when I don't he let's things go bad. I'm detaching.
So here I am for some theraphy 
The thing with the computer is nothing more than that, because I've cleaned up the drives. He just did not want to deal with potential hitches, so this is something I'll deal with when he is out of town. Remember the new wardrobe and bedroom revamp I did when he was out of town? He still recalls what a relief it was not to have been around when it was done. 
Slowly
