BeingMe - You know, like many folks, I came to this site to save my relationship, but now, I find that I've really saved myself. There was a point when I was quite happy that I'd be takking myself into my next R as a much better person. I can understand your sentiments.
Jennifer - the less attractive parts to my personality include a compulsion to be right. Ugh. I'm still trying to recover from that affliction The choices I make are so different, providing I can stop long enough to question my motives.
Mel - Be sure not to lurk when things go downhill over here, they happen sometimes But yes, the tendency to wait for 'them' to do something is strong, isn't it? Insecurity is such a tough one to shed. What's interesting is that they feel insecure too. And sometimes they need action from us to jolt them out of their doldrums.
midwest - you know, it did cross my mind that NG might be cross to find I'd gone. In the past, that alone would have kept me rooted. Now, I figure if he wants me to wait, he should have told me he'd be running late. Amazingly, I find myself with the confidence to stand up for myself.
It was a blah Monday, just ploughing through the ever growing mountain of work. Today promises to be the same, NG is under far more pressure than I am. Roll on the long weekend.
The choices I make are so different, providing I can stop long enough to question my motives.
But yes, the tendency to wait for 'them' to do something is strong, isn't it? Insecurity is such a tough one to shed. What's interesting is that they feel insecure too. And sometimes they need action from us to jolt them out of their doldrums. 
