Hi BeingMe, midwest, Martha and Jennifer - Lots to be said for musings!
BeingMe - I completely agree that the most careless thing we can do is take things for granted, not just with our spouses, but also with our parents, siblings, friends. This whole experience has been an eye-opener for me in that respect, to spend the majority of my time enjoying today
midwest - despite doing a better job enjoying my todays, i have to confess to moments when the 'letting go' is tough. I think Pen put her finger on it when she surmised that many of us here are the analytical types, and unsolved mysteries are simply unbearable
Martha - turning negatives into positives is an art form, one that requires fresh perspectives, no? I used to be riddled with anxiety which I can now attribute to caring too much about what other people thought. The tough part of being an adult is having the conviction to stick to what I want, and being happy with it. When I look back at the times I ended up owning someone else's problems, it was because I let myself be derailed from my chosen path. Ugh
Jennifer - this 'control' stuff manifests itself in many ways, doesn't it? We had a classic situation yesterday - NG was supposed to pick me up at 2 pm, and did not show up. He did vaguely mention that there might be a conflict, but that if I did not hear from him otherwise, the 2 pm pickup will happen. 2 pm came, no sign of NG. I tried to call him, with no success. Fleeting thought, is he in a hotel room with ow Well, 15 minutes later, I decide instead of waiting resentfully, I should just take a cab home, which I did. 330 NG calls, to apologise, he got dragged into a client site at 1 pm, and did not realise that they blocked out cell phone coverage, so NG could not call out, and my calls were not getting through. He was relieved I had made my way home, and was happy getting on with my things. A BIG change from past MO, when I'd have waited, just to emphasise that I was inconvenienced by his not calling about change of plans. We learn
Looking forward to a doing-nothing weekend. We may catch a movie. The possibilities are endless Slowly
Well, 15 minutes later, I decide instead of waiting resentfully, I should just take a cab home, which I did. 330 NG calls, to apologise, he got dragged into a client site at 1 pm, and did not realise that they blocked out cell phone coverage, so NG could not call out, and my calls were not getting through. He was relieved I had made my way home, and was happy getting on with my things. A BIG change from past MO, when I'd have waited, just to emphasise that I was inconvenienced by his not calling about change of plans. We learn 
Slowly
