Wow, wow, wow! Just look at the insight that awaits dear Slowly when she logs back in!
Pen, your insight is incredible--and not just for Slowly's sitch or affairs. Life in general.
But H2H started something that is a really effective reminder:
Quote: Seeking the ‘why’ may not be the insurance card you’re really looking for.
Yes, because as Pen elaborated, we do things for a variety of reasons, right? The more complex the problem, the more reasons enter the equation.
That being said, I like this:
Quote: Go back to the “what would you be doing differently” question – and ask: what is really keeping you from doing this? Is it fear? Is it adherence to the thought that without the “why” I can’t complete the picture, and therefore can never quite feel secure? I also guess that part of it is wanting H. to do some of that processing, hoping he will do his share in the protection of the M. My guess is that he probably does, just not in the manner or ‘language’ you would use or understand. Just because he seems to avoid it with you, doesn’t mean he’s avoiding it within himself.
Excellent! Others rarely do processing in our style. I mean, my friends here sure have one up on my other friends as to how I tick, but even so, we are all wired differently.
Doggone it, H2H, your comment made my day!
Quote: As you know, I’m a big fan of questions – and I find that the more I ask of myself, the more I uncover and find that there really is very little I need to know from outside myself.
Now, see the big difference from a year ago? I'm so proud of you!
I've learned to embrace the questions: they are the answers, Slowly. You will never, ever eradicate them from your ever increasing list. Now that I've thoroughly depressed you, what are you doing to GAL and move yourself forward with joy and less contemplation?
Slowly, I'm offering you a big hug, because you've started a dialogue that is important enough to keep addressing. Not just for you, but for all of us. You're a wise and insightful lady. (H2H, I love you too! And your questions more!)
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
