Oh...by the way! Another thing that he said to me was....If I ever cheated on him he would be gone in a second. He doesnt understand how I can try and work on our marriage and forgive him. He said that he has lost a little respect in me because I am so easy to forgive. I told him that my marriage was sacred to me and I married in sickness and in health unyil death do us part. I let him know that I wanted to give it one try and work through this. I also said that everyone can make a mistake it just cant keep happening. I also forgot to tell you all that I have a wonderful step son that I think of as my own....I dont want to lose him too! We have him every other weekend...but last time we had him he asked his dad why he doesnt care about me anymore. H didnt answer him. We never argue or fight in front of him. His actions must be showing. Why do I allow this. Our own child picked up on it. I am a really screwed up person...huh!