Now he told me that something in him tells me that he doesnt want to be married. He said that he is sick of me accusing him of things even though the accusations were true. He said that he feels a divorce is necessary. - He may be right.You have to be strong even if it feels like you're falling apart. He will be more inclined to go to you if you "got it together" then if you are as in turmoil and confused like he may be. All begging, crying, and pleading will just hurt your chances (I swear on my kids heads).And its not fair but that is the best way to play this out if theres any chance of having him straighten up.You have to act like thats it, I'm moving ahead either way-with H in counseling (and to make it work he needs to cut all contact w/ them)or w/o H altogether. You have to play hardball,it works.
