I know I am in this relationship for at least another 6 years (daughter will then be 18), in truth I would love this to work, I dont want to be a failure again.

BUT....how do you put the subject away, how do you stop mentioning it, asking questions...hoping for answers. And why do we put ourselves through this?

Has I have outlined in the past my other half (we are not married) has the 3 b's problem...balls, bowels and back...so he now says he cannot ml, have sex...whatever you want to call it....At the moment I am at the point of I dont want him anyway...its comming upto 7 months since he touched me. His take on it is that he needs to feel comfortable with me before he can come on to me (that is when is aches and pains arent effecting him )....The problem is that I can leave the subject alone and do the nice things for him, he likes to cuddle in the morning, I find this hard...especially after months of no ml...but I make a compromise and let him do this...then after a week or two I start to get techty and ask when he thinks we may be able to ml then it kicks of agains...so I am in a catch 22 situation.
So how do you leave the subject alone, what do you do to keep you mind of ml, sex...apart from M...which takes the edge off.....
I have seriously considered having an affair....but with my self asteem so low, no-one would have me anyway...so no point really.

I just wish these ld w/h could see the harm they are doing to us supposedly hd partners....I see some hd have sex a cuple of times a month....what a dream that would be...I have a very strong feeling that my sl with my partner is well and truly over and that I have put myself in a position of lonliness for the next 6 years.
HELP!!!!!