Lou & GEL: Thank you for the warning. Truth be told, I only read the excerpt for Dr. Laura's tome on Amazon. I have to ask though: When did total self-absorbtion become a virtue?
Another bit of good news. My W dropped the therapist that provoked my posts in When Therapy Hurts. I opened up (not easy for me as my crack head ex like to use my words to manipulate) and told her some of the things that I had posted. She said that she didn't notice or realize that and agreed that I had a legitimate complaint (a rarity in this R). Again thanks for pointing out the danger.
I have to admit, Dr. Laura is definitely not one of my fav's when it comes to people giving advice. Never have particularily cared for her approach/style. She may be dead-on correct about some things...but she's not for me. Which is why there are soooo many therapists out there to choose from...no one therapist is the right fit for everyone.
Also, Kudos to you for opening up to your W...this is something you need to do on a more regular basis. It's something I'm having to work at doing myself...with my H...but for me the rewards is beginning to show, in the fact that now..he's beginning to open up to me too
I happen to think that Dr. Laura's main premise -- that WOMEN THEMSELVES would be happier if they followed a few simple principles in making their marriage happier -- is dead-on. Unfortunately, it's SO dead-on and blunt in its style, that I would agree with others that it's probably going to turn most women off. It certainly turned MY wife off, when she saw it promoted on a couple of talk shows.
No one can argue about Schlessinger's bluntness. I'm genuinely surprised that Care & Feeding has not been relegated to a bridal shower gag gift. While my W resonds more readily to verbal brickbats similar to Laura's (e.g. my calling her on her cronic complaining) than the touchy-feely methods of her former therapist (go figure!); nonetheless, I'll try to get her to read SSM. Yes, while I'm applying Michele's methods for melting the ice.
