Thanks for the suggestions. Some good ones here. I like your "mantras" I think I need to adopt them as well.
Im a little gun shy on the asking what W needs to feel loved. I get more of the same from those ones "Ive told you over and over what it is I want (I want to be happy) so I'm not going to tell you again". Its a nasty little game that gets played here. Dont know about W but im tired of playing.
Mantra of the month "Continue to work on your PMA and self image and hope that it gets taken for what it is".