CM wrote: ---------- We discussed going up to her parents house for Easter, (the kids love going to the farm), she told me she didnt look forward to seing her family, and really didnt want me there either. I dont think I should stay home and do nothing. I feel like that would make it too easy for her to start living a sepparate life. Any suggestions on this one? I did throw out the offer that I would take the kids to her parents house and that she could stay home. I got a rather strange look and the answer was "no I dont think so". ----------
If it is going to be a family outing, then you should be included. They are your children, and she is your wife. Don't let her separate you from your children when you have the capacity to be with them.
I suggest that you go with the family. Put on a good face. Do it for your kids. They deserve to have both parents. If she attempts to engage you in a negative way, then you walk the high ground. No arguments, no hate, no anger. Protect your children.
Let me tell you something. I intend no disrespect toward you or your wife. It is very difficult in any marriage where there are children and unhappy spouses, or another person involved, to maintain an atmosphere where the children are unaffected. Children are often 'poisoned' toward one spouse or the other unintentionally as a result of the tension between the spouses, and sometimes, children are intentionally used as pawns in a tug-of-war between parents. Don't let this happen in your relationship.
If your wife is 'not firing on all thrusters' due to an outside involvement or for whatever reason, then it is your duty and responsibility to be a hero for your children, a champion for THEIR cause.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
