--------------------- I have an idea that your wife is exhibiting an increasing sense of entitlement. Why do you think that is happening? ---------------------
Your comments on your prior post I fully agree with. In a conversation with W over the debt I suggested that we sould get a debt consolidation loan and rip up all the cards (save one for emergencies) as it is becomming obvious that we cant seem to use them responsibly anyways. The return comment was that she needs it to book flights etc for work travel. I suggested that they supply her with a card for such purposes. That suggestion was flatly refused.
On the entitlement front, I'm starting to think that she is getting prepared for a parting of the ways. A few months ago she expressed concernt that all of our major assets were in my name. When we sat down to discuss this, I tried to explain that the house is in both our names, the car is in her name (she did not beleive me) and the van is in my compnay's name. So the split of assets was equal as well that in marriage everything is shared equaly. She did not accept this, or maybe she never understood. She brought it up a number of times since then till one nite I lost my cool and brought out the registration papers for the car and for the morgage on the house to prove my point. I also suggested that she needs to grow up and realize that we have resposibilities to our children that will require sacrifices on our parts.
I havent heard a word since then, but I think she still has that in her mind and that may be where the entitlement feeling are comming from.
I think from prior posts, you mentioned that I should "keep my eyes open" as far as possible EA etc. All of her actions to date seem to point that way when put back to back. I have not and will not approach her on this subject unless I have concrete information to prove such.
Im almost thinking that W is trying to work me up to make it easier to justify D. She has not said so but either she is going donw that path or she is honestly trying to work out her feelings / problems. I hope its the later.
One more bit of info, W was married when we first met, and from what I knew of her prior marriage she seems to be going down the same path.
Again I hope and pray im wrong. I guess all I can do is continue to better myself and try to be the man of steel / tin foil as was suggested.
Let me know if any ideas pop into your head on if any of this makes sense.
Thanks again I really appreciate the comments in these dark times..
