----------- There may be a reason so I'm asking - why would you "ask her if "we have any plans" or "if there is anything she wants to do" - instead of taking the time to plan for a dinner out, a movie, a local play or concert, a picnic, a visit to a local attraction, etc?
And then let her know that you've made arrangements/plans (including childcare, if needed) for this weekend for the two of you to do whatever. Have you done this before and got turned down, or are you automatically defaulting to your wife to make plans for the two of you? -----------------
Yes and yes. I have been making an effort to plan a date nite for once a week. Last week it was Driving range (she suggested it), Dinner and a movie, this weekend is a movie (that she said she would like to see)at home with popcorn and all the fixings, a game of crib or two and tried to lighten things up and suggested a thumb wrestle or leg wrestle to ease the stress
I think where im comming from is that we used to sit and spend time togeather, watching movies, playing crib etc but that seems to be a way of the past. Lately (past 4 - 5 mnths) as soon as we get the kids down she retires to the bedroom to read and go to sleep.
She has also told me in the past that she likes to have time in bed alone to process the day and wind down. I have tried to be consious of that and made sure I give her time to wind down.
So I guess what I am saying to her that if she doesnt want to at least sit in the same room with me then I will make plans and go out. Am I being unreasonable? I dont know, if I need a good slap upside the head then please feel free to deliver it as I am unsure if my actions are inappropriate.
Thanks again for the comments and the advice it is truly appreciated.
