---- Think back over your relationship. Have there been ongoing areas of contention? Even things you thought minor or unimportant? Things that might have been an issue in your earlier relationship, but that don't come up anymore? --------
I have tried to think about this many times and the only things I can come up with are the following:
1. W had a problem with me not trying to keep the house clean, I have more than compensated for that. Over the past 6 mnths I have gone off the deep end cleaning / decluttering the house. Funny thing on that one is that it seemed like the more I did that the less she would do in that area.
2. She used to tell me that she didnt feel important and special. Again some what ambiguous and not too sure on what that meant (she used to tell me that a long time ago). Recently (started about 5 mnths ago) I have been trying to figure out what her Love Language is with little or no success. I requested that she take the survey in the back of the book to help me figure out what her primary LL is. She read the questions and told me that she wanted it all! and subsiquently never answered the questions.
3. She told me recently that she "tested" me in about March of this year. She said she decided not to tell me that she loved me and waited to see when I told her. I failed miserably. Things have changed since then, and I think (from her reactions to date) that is not something she wants to hear from me these days.
I will try to give more thought to your questions and see if I can come up with more that has been said in the past so I have some idea on what it is I can work on.
I know I need a good slap upside the head most days, but I hope I have learned enough to start listening to my W and try to feed her soul.
Thanks for the advice, I truly do appreciate the help.
