quote: --------- Im a little afraid to follow through on this one. I think in the past I have been persuing too much on the intimacy issue and that seems to have pushed her away even more. So im concerned that if I ask her to read this she may throw out the big D. ---------
Okay. first off, the fear has got to go. I will tell you something that you probably already know. Fear is your enemy. Fear will make you weak. Fear will disable you from facing much of life's struggles, and greatly limit you from basking in the warmth of life's greatest joys.
Your wife will see your fear as weakness. In general, women can be moved by our(men) vulnerabilities, but those must be seen against a backdrop of strength to be appreciated. Are you following me?
your wife said: ------------ "I want to be with an ethical and cool guy", "I want to feel like im in control of my life" , and in the same sentence, "I want to feel taken care of" ------------
She also tells you to "be a man". She doesn't respect you. The novels prove that she appreciates manly behavior, something that she is not getting from you. Pick up one of her novels and read part of it. You will see something of what she is wanting from you.
Like others told you, don't ask what she wants to do on a Friday night, make plans. Be assertive.
If you are going to go play cards, invite your wife. Get involved in her life, and invite her into yours.
I am going to start a new thread and ask the ladies to talk about manly behavior.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
