You might approach her with something like...."you now, I've been thinking about what you said about ***** (whatever it is you choose), I really do want to help you feel the way you need to, because I love you. I need your help though, I need your direction and guidance to help me make sure you feel loved & cared for...because you are."
Something like this needs to be done in a calm, direct manner. And since you are phrasing it as an "I've been thinking"....you don't have to wait for her to bring something up. If however she chooses to say "Be a Man, figure it out", call her out on this....and tell her that is unfair you can no better crawl in her head and figure out what she needs than she can crawl into yours and figure out what you need.
