Thanks for the advice. I took and and gave it a shot. We had a few conversations over the weekend. We discussed what we each need to feel loved. She told me that she needed to feel taken care of, financially and to feel like she is in control of her life (she did notice the contradiction in those two needs). She also told me that dreaded words, I Love you but am not IN love with you. That one was a difficult pill to swallow. She tried to get me to agree that I felt the same way towards her. Initially I did agree but came back the next day and told her that that was not the case for me. I let her know that I am still IN love with you and that is why it is so difficult for me to accept our current situation.
I also did ask about a schedule. That one didnt go over too well. What I said was "I need to ask you something, but I dont want you to answer right away, but to consider it and we can discuss it later". Immediately she asked where did you get that idea from? THAT book? Later she told me that she felt demeaned by the question. So far I have had no definite answer to the request. Not sure if I should bring it up again.
I wonder if anyone out there has had any experience with an IUD? From what I have read it can have a few side affects.
1. Weight Gain 2. Anemia 3. Increaded flow during that time of the month 4. Decreased sex drive (lower testoterone)
My W has had this done over a year and a half ago and I wonder if maybe that has something to do with her LD?
