I really want to encourage you to talk to your wife. I don't mean just about the sex. From what you write, it sounds like there is some low level anger coming from both of you toward each other.
Ask your wife to consider sex on a schedule, even if it is just once a week. Ask her then give her a day to think about it, then come back and discuss it.
Don't worry about the uncomfortableness at first. You can work through that. Practice will make it go away. You can't have good sex unless you practice. You can't practice if you don't have sex.
If you can handle it, have a nice non-confrontational talk and bring up the schedule. Make it a request, not a demand, and not some wimpy plead.
Report the results back here.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
