Welcome to the BB. It seems to me that you are, at least, going in the right direction. You both agree that there is a problem. It seems that your W and mine have a similar neurosis: grasping at straws for a grievance. I started calling her on being unpleasable; she is starting to come around. At least your W has condescended to reading SSM. Might I suggest showing her to the Monster Board in an effort to reduce some of her job stresses. I too got my chain jerked by more responsibilities and no pay raise--when I started taking days off in mid-week to interview the promises magically materialized.
