Yes, I was reading it around the house and she did pick it up and selectively read (I think mostly on the chapter on increasing the libido of the LD person. She never said much and stopped reading after maybe one chapter. Im not too sure what she got out of it but from her reactions or lack of not much.
We have gone to counselling a few times, first togeather, then I went sepparately (but have stopped) and she is now going to see the same tharapist sepparately.
After one of her first sessions (she seemed very upset), I asked her how things went, she told me that the therapist thought that she was "pre-menapausal" and that some ppl when they are in that state find sex to be unenjoyable and even some ladies switch to the other team (if you get my meaning).
I couldnt beleive what I was hearing, that a trusted therapist would put that kind of idea in her head. A week or so later she asked me if I thought that she was considering "switching teams", I honestly answered "I dont really know", she assured me that that was not the case but the tought is still lingering in the back of my mind.
So I guess the long and the short of it all is that yes she read (a chapter or two) of SSM and there seemed to be no improvement in our intamacy or lack there of.
Not too sure if I should ask her to read the whole thing or leave it be. I dont want to make her feel pressured (as she has told me in the past that she has felt with reguards to intamacy.
Any ideas / suggestions? Thanks for any insights you may be able to provide.
