Thanks for the answer. It does help. I guess I was just looking for something that I could work on as far as the closeness / distance goes. What you say makes alot of sense and I think what I get from your answer is that I really need to start working on noticing little things. I think I have been to caught up in the search for the grand gestures and when I didnt get them or got the reverse I would shut down even more.
Today seems to be another "eggshells" day. Yesterday we went to a gymnastics meet with my sister her two D's and my mother. My mother tends to grate on my wife's nerves on a daily basis. My M is an old european and has the habit of "trying to help" with reguards to helping take care of our d's (3 & 5). I think that I need to keep the two of them apart for a while. I cant remember the last time they were in the same room and things ended well.
Im still working trying to find the right time to ask the question that you posed. Hopefuly it will be taken favourably. These days Im almost afraid to ask any hard questions for fear of making my wife feel pressured.
Thanks agin for your insight and honesty, I really do appreciate the moral boost. It sure helps to know that others understand and that im not alone.
