Thanks for the suggestion. Let me give you a little more info so you can understand more of my stich. I am self employed and currently am having difficulties with work. This seems to be a seasonal thing for me as my work is very seasonal. Unfortunately this year seems to be worse than most. Currently I am looking at having to go out and look for a job. This is adding some financial strain on my relationship as well.
I have asked my wife in the past (couple of weeks ago) what would make her feel more "in control". She told me that she was concerned that all of our assets are in my name. We had a rather heated discussion about this to the point that I had to pull out registration papers (for the vehicles and the house) to show her that that is not the case. I also had to explain that we are married and that "what is mine is yours". Unfortunately this convo was not a "nice" one. I think that the point did get accross and I have not heard that concern again, but im sure the feeling is still lingering.
I recently tried the tactic of going dark, but i think it backfired. She told me that she felt emotionaly distant from me and appeared outwardly upset. I have tried to stop this but it doesnt seem to matter what I do that everything I do is taken that way.
So currently I think I know what the answer to the question that you poosed will be. But I will pose the question at my earliest opportunity.
I have a question tho, if i may. How do you find the strength to be able to show affection to your mate that makes you feel totaly rejected and inadiquite? Its a tough question and im trying to find the strength to be outwardly loving and affectionate without getting down on myself when the affection is not returned.
