Thanks for the response. I have read Love Languages. I found it a wonderful book that made alot of sense. I immediately found my primary LL (can you guess?). I have tried to find out what my wife's primary LL is, I have (as the book suggested) tried each of the methods and watched for a reaction, nothing.
I actually talked to my wife about this book (may have been a bad mistake) and asked her is she would be willing to take the survey in the back of the book. She agreed. When she started reading the questions, she told me that she wanted it all!?! And stopped trying to answer the questions.
She had told me in subsiquent "discussions" that she needs to feel taken care of but in the same breath tells me that she needs to feel more in control of her / our lives?! So my confusion and frustration builds.
All I feel that I can do these days is to take care of myself, I have been working out regularly (unfortunately in my basement) and just started a martial arts class. I almost feel like I am doing this to try and not be around the painful situation.
Sorry starting to ramble here, having a rough day so far.
Thanks for the advice I truly do appreciate the comments.
