Hi & welcome to the BB. I think you'll find lots of great insights here. Something caught my attention...you said your W has to feel it "here" pointing to her head. That's not exactly telling you what's up now is it? But it makes me wonder if what she meant was she doesn't feel loved.
I can tell you when I don't feel loved, the last thing I want to do or think about is ML. When she told you that, did you ask her specifically what she meant? If she meant she doesn't feel loved....then ask her what you can do that would make her feel loved.
There's a great book that I suggest you read "The Five Love Languages", by Gary Chapman. Everyone has their different style of love language. What you interperet as signs of love/desire/affection, may not be what she would interperet at all as those things. So...if you are showing signs of love in your way, you aren'treaching her and she's left feeling unloved because you aren't speaking to with actions she would interperet as love. Did that make sense?
Really I suggest you read this book and add it to your library...at least to begin with :-)
