A little on my stich. My W and I have been having issues for what seems like an eternity (probably more like about a year). Issues of intamacy have been my biigest problem to overcome. I have discussed this with her and she tells me that she has no intrest in sex.
In the past our LL has been torrid and mutually satisfying.
I have tried to explain to her what it means to me and the rejection that I feel from our lack of ML, but I am told that she needs to "feel it here" (points to her head) before she can feel comfortable enough to ML.
I have read DR, SSM and am trying to find principles that I can apply here but am getting frustrated as it seems that everything that I try is not successful, and does not move me any closer to my goals.
Two weeks ago we did have sex (note I did not call this ML). It was probably the most uncomfortable, contrived thing that I have ever experinced. I talked to my wife about this and she agreed. This seems to have made me rethink my goals.
Im rather confused and having a hard time focusing on what I should be doing (or not doing). Any advice would be most welcome.
