Do you and your W go to the same C? If not, then I suggest a C who will see both of you, at the same time.
My H had been seeing a C all on his own, which really didn't do us any good at all. My H is definitely not wanting out of our M but I can see how easy it would be if your W is seeing her own C and you your own, she could put a very negative spin to things where the C has no idea that you are trying.
You may have already addressed this earlier...if so, I'm sorry to rehash it.
