KEB, I forgot to add one thing: I made my husband WORK for it several times....ok, hundreds of times, LOL..as we worked things out. It was my own pride, it had nothing to do with him. It did NOTHING to help the repair process but I would be remiss if I didn't tell you that.
I just could NOT bring myself to trust that he desired me, as he said he did. I had long ago lost faith in his words (and he himself told me that he wasn't sure where a "wife fit into things" meaning, he didn't know if he should stay married) and did not trust that his desire was for real. I needed to SEE it on a consistent basis, without him reverting to his original behavior once I let my guard down a teensy tiny bit, and then I really opened the floodgates and let him back in, fully.
So what your wife is doing is completely normal, imo.
Or should I write: imto (in my twisted opinion) cause I don't remember some of the more 'healthy' board members torturing their husbands in this way.
