Don't talk to her about the other man until you do have facts. Doing otherwise will simply drive the affair further underground.
I will be away until late tonight, but I will get back to you on the rest of your post.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.