I second Nop and Honey's posts. It is impossible as long as there is OM stuff going on. On the other hand you can take positive steps to GAL of your own and protect your interests. You can make it clear that you are interested in reconciliation, that you understand your part in the problems in the M but you are in no way responsible for her affair. She must own 100% responsibility for that choice. You cannot make her do that. You can show her by the positive changes that you make that you are capable of much more than you have shown in the R previously, that she may wnat to reconsider but you can't make her. Get a counselor as well as a lawyer. You need one for yourself and your own peace of mind.
