Keb,

Coming from a woman and a mother...I can see why you are upset about the performance. To me and I am an outsider but that seems a little selfish. Kid's like to look out and see their parents watching.

Don't appologize for making threads about you. Because yes you did cause conflict in the marriage. But you know what it takes two people to make conflict. So why yes you have faults, so does she. I have faults in my marriage to. Give yourself credit for working on it.

She is angry and hurt and it may take time. But try this, couldn't hurt. Maybe one day this weekend run her some bath water and encourage her to relax and take a break and you will do things around the house that need to be done. Tell her just relax. That would soften me up, lol. Just little sweet gestures to kind of break the ice.