STOP! I skimmed over most of the posts in this thread and that is the first and most important thing that comes to mind.
Did you ever pick up a copy of C.S. Lewis's "Screwtape letters"? Satan is devious and manipulative - never forget that.
In my quick scan, I didn't see any information based on CURRENT EVENTS. This is all new information on PAST HISTORY.
Yes, it is disturbing, awful information, and you should definitely define your boundaries and action plans based on the full story, but be careful not to treat these ADDITIONAL DETAILS as NEW EVENTS.
My W takes past history and relives it as if it just happened all the time, just yesterday in fact. Years ago she got into a "call the police" argument with the neighbors. Last week the neighbor gave W an unfriendly look at the grocery store, and yesterday W was reliving the entire experience as if it had just happened.
LG, there is nothing "new" in these posts. STOP! I'm sure there are plenty of things that do and should bother you that you are just now finding out about. But did they happen since you moved back in?
You do still want a M with H. Is your faith in God strong enough to ask God to move your H's mountain? Keep faith, and "perhaps God will change [your H's] heart".
You are strong LG, and our God is stronger than anything we will face, but I think you should focus on H, and let someone else witness to BMOW and Finance and do what you want H to do with the business. STOP - end all interaction and information gathering. If you need to go a little bit farther - April 15 is a good day to start deleting, throwing away, or forwarding without reading everything to do with H's old life, unless H brings it up to deal with.
