I am finally learning the truth, but not from my H

[BeingMe]

They creep me out, somewhat too! Why would a mistress want to keep in contact with the betrayed wife? What could she possibly gain from this? It's almost as if she's trying to excuse her behaviour. Has she ever asked you for forgiveness for her part in the betrayal? To my way of thinking, she knew exactly what she was doing, getting involved with a married man, and from a site such as that.

If it were me, and my H's ex-OW had the gall to contact me with such personal info, I would, firstly be suspicious (from whence it comes, and all that), and secondly, tell her exactly what she can do with all that information.

It is clear that you are very aware (without this woman's input) of the fact that your H is in great need of professional help, whether you decide to stay with him or not.