I am finally learning the truth, but not from my H

[trustinginHim]

Today, I decided to just come right out and ask BMOW's fiance some very direct questions. So I emailed him. He then wrote me back and cc'ed both my H and a business partner. What I wrote is in black and the fiance's response is in blue. The color choice seems fitting, doesn't it?

I would like to begin this by saying that I really wish many good things for you and BMOW. I have prayed for BMOW to receive many blessings after all the heartache she has endured in her life and I really hope that you are one of her blessings.
I appreciate your concern for BMOW and your well wishes for her and her life.

Second, the business means nothing to me.
Nor does it to me... I've my own 20 year old company that I continue to run and sit on the national Board for the industry. This business is hardly worth my time or efforts... But we have a inventory to get rid of and trashing it seems stupid but it is getting to that point.

I wish to, one, sever completely all ties that my life continues to have with the business as soon as possible so that my husband and I can move on in a positive direction with our life and, two, to protect my husband in name and respect.
Of this I understand too, I know BMOW wishes nothing to do with the company to date and has taken much counseling to deal with the fact your H simply used her and the state she was in, concerning her past marriage, to have the affair with her and lure the numerous other women and ladies of the evening into sexual fetishes they delved into.

The sad fact being all in the name of "love", it's a sad person, reputation or not that uses a woman as such, telling them they "love" them but wants to have sex with them and other women. But alas everyone has their skeletons and quirks I suppose.

I'm not going to get into a pissing match with you over who did what, when or where to whom... But you better be careful in what trees you rattle lest you get hit on the head with a apple even a snake would not want a bite of. But you can ask your husband, as I am sure you will, about that. I don't mean to be crass about this but I have sat in on almost one year of sessions and hearing about the torrid events that went on, the sex personals websites they belonged to, the hotels they took women to, the pictures they took, and too much more than I have the desire to discuss. But I did secure the pictures, and I do have the sites and web addresses with the STILL open accounts.

Why you may ask.

For this very reason...is BMOW of no responsibility or fault in the affair with your H and the other women they had, NO. But neither is your H and I will be damned if anyone is going to hurt her any further than she has been. I am not trying to imply that you are attempting to hurt her but you seem to be taking a one-sided view of this situation or maybe you just don't know all of the facts.

Out of respect for BMOW and her name, I, like you, will do everything to protect her. Trust me....her family was not happy of her decision to have an affair but do know what happened and support her in her efforts to recover from also being part victim in this situation. If you have not guessed this is a very sore subject with myself having worked in the past with victims of sexual predators.

The only reason I am even corresponding with you is because my husband absolutely doesn't care anymore and there seems to be some loose ends that need cleaning up. All the business means to him now is about two years of lies, heartache and disappointment and thus he is quite apathetic about ending this chapter in his life. I believe his thoughts are that if he doesn't think about it, it must not exist. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way for me.
I would agree that there is disappointment on both ends regarding the business aspect. It appears that no-one really followed through as initially intended in order to make this a real viable business.

From what BMOW has explained to me, the business was created as a cover to explain and justify the time they spent together. It is regrettable that others were involved that they were unaware of the initial intention, I'm sure that would have chosen NOT to participate.

The only reason that I handle this now is as I stated above, is to deplete the inventory that is currently being stored in our home. Once that has occurred, there are and will not be any on-going activities to create new product or grow anything.

As a matter of fact, I believe BMOW has offered to return everything several times with no response. It was our intention to sell off the majority at a show, but I doubt seriously that BMOW will want to put in the effort it takes to man a booth and handle this sort of activity, understandably so.

I realize that my H signed away his rights to this business this past summer. After he did this, I thought our connection to the business was over except for the occasional customer that we would forward your way, as we have been doing. However, since then, I am failing to understand several things that remain ongoing:

1) Why are we still receiving correspondence for the business at our home address at this late date? When H signed his rights away, the business address change should have been reported to the appropriate entities at that time. I noticed that the customer payments stopped coming here, so why are we still receiving the business correspondence?
The corporation address was changed and the mailing address was changed as far as we know to our address some time ago. I'm not really sure why that mail was sent to your home address. All other business correspondence does come to our address.

As far as payments are concerned, the few checks that have been received barely cover the cost of shipping and the time it takes to administer things. This is not a cash cow or revenue generating entity by any stretch of the imagination.

All of the "sales" dollars that have come in, can be seen by logging onto the administrative portion of the site. Over the past year, we have had less than 2K in sales, hardly anything to speak of. In the past when BMOW has offered to send money or reimbursements to your H or other business partners for their time and money, they have vehemently refused.

2) Why is our home address still listed on the website, specifically on the XXXX page? By the way, the fax number also listed on that page has been disconnected.
The home address apparently is listed there because the server has had numerous problems (this is what we were told), the site has been backed up and brought back up with backup files multiple times and we have tried to stay on top of making sure that the correct information is reflected there.

In fact, in the beginning we thought it best to move the site, we have asked numerous times to provide us with access and the information needed so that we could move the site from their service. As I'm sure your H can tell you and as BMOW has told me, they have never been known for their responsiveness.

After months of trying to get the site moved, our efforts went no where and it became a moot point. And at this point, it doesn't really matter. It is my opinion and BMOW's wish to severe all ties to this business.

3) If my H signed away all responsibility for the business, why is his name still affiliated with the business website? I note the XXXX page that has his name listed along with an email address that includes his name.
Again, we have tried to keep up with the changes, but are not informed when the site is backed up from old copies. Further more, your H and the business partners all have access to the site with the logon ID for administration.

4) Why were two credit cards taken out in his name for the business after he signed his rights away? We received notification of their existence in the mail.
There are debit cards associated with the business account. Capitol One sent a pre-approved card some months back, we have never received anything else regarding notification as to the status of this account. There are no other cards that have been issued or taken out in the companies name that we are aware of.

Fiance, I do worry and am greatly concerned. For me, my husband and the business partners. Can you possibly understand this from my point of view? As for corresponding with the business partners about these matters, one says that no one from your end responds to his emails about the business. Also, if the corporation does not know that my H signed away his rights as indicated by the delinquent notices we have received, then there is a problem.
We have not heard from any business partners since last fall, as a matter of fact BMOW wrote to him about the financials just a few weeks back and we have never received a response. Other than that, there has been no correspondence between anyone, other than the few that you have forwarded to us. We've heard nothing from anyone for months.

It was our assumption that this was by choice. The company corporation was notified of the changes made with minutes and they were posted to the site last summer. We will follow up and make sure that the records reflect the changes accordingly.

As for forwarding these delinquent notices we have received about the business in the mail, I believe all are capable of being addressed online from your end in a timely manner. BMOW knows what needs to be done and when, or at least that is what she has indicated in the past. The fact that we are receiving these notices now, at this late date and after BMOW had emphatically stated in a past email to both my H and business partners that all had been taken care of and that the business was up-to-date, indicates there is a problem. I would greatly appreciate it if you take my concern for these matters into consideration and address these problems.
As I previously stated, if there are any loose ends that need to be resolved, we will handle it on this end. I 've spoken to BMOW and she is promptly going to be contacting the Company Corporation to clear this matter up.

Regards to you,
LG

The company will be closed or offered to a business partner as soon as we do hear from him and finish honoring the orders we have currently. If said business partner does not wish to take this on, we will auction off the remaining inventory as a single lot.

Fiance

LG--still reeling and it sure looks like I was right about a few things

More to come...and if my H has seen this email, he has said nothing to me about it yet.