Is this really so insurmountable??

[heatherg]

I have to disagree with some of your comments Ohio. Hitting me could also be considered HIS reaction, but there's nothing good or right about it. It sounds like you are well aware there is miscommunication in your relationship, but you don't seem to feel a need to fix it b/c you'd rather focus on the idea that you are entitled to your reactions. For example, you miss your wife when she goes on trips, but you don't show it. Since you admit you don't show it in a way that she can relate to (i.e. Five Love Languages may be insightful for that situation) and I'm presuming she's not a mind reader, you should not be surprised to hear from her that she feels like you don't miss her. There shouldn't be anything funny about that and it's not silly. When your partner opens up their heart to you, laughing or rolling your eyes is just cruel in my opinion.
I do understand that we all have coping mechanisms and sometimes we do or say things we don't mean-however OUR intentions do not matter. Trust me, it didn't matter to my H that my intentions were not to hurt him when I betrayed our marriage vows, but to fill a void within me. He does not care, as well he should not. Intentions are sometimes meaningless and loving someone means that you consider how they will react to something you are about to do or say.
I'm glad you stopped by my thread, and I'd like to hear more of your point of view. I'm not trying to shut you down, just having a healthy disagreement. Thanks.