Do you mind me asking you something Heather? I may have just missed it somewhere, but was wondering...if it was you that betrayed the M and it was not physical, what really made you go to this other person and what ultimately helped you decide to let that R go and work on your M? Sorry if I'm being nosy. Just trying to get inside my H's head and find out where his brain is. Hoping he "wakes up" sometime soon and sees what a wonderful woman he's dumping!