Hey Heather. Have you tried counseling? I didn't see it in your thread anywhere. I know people can move beyond an affair if they both really want it. A counselor was a big help for me alone and with my H. Sometimes just bouncing ideas off of a good counselor is a tremendous help. My C even had days that she was at a free clinic for some of her patients who could not afford, or didn't have insurance to cover. It would be worth the try, if even just for yourself.
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