Is this really so insurmountable??

[ValerieA]

Communication is soo hard for us.... The only comment he made about the letters I wrote was about something I said to the effect of "Obviously there is one thing in particular I know I should not have done. But I would not be the person I am at this moment, and I believe I have a better understanding of myself , our marriage and our family now. I honestly do not know that I would trade that to go back in time". .....I only wanted to convey that I HAVE learned from this. Do I sound totally insensitive?

I wouldn't say that you were insensitive. You were only trying to make your point. It just didn't sound right to your H.

I would recommend that you get Divorce Remedy , After the Affair , and The Five Love Languages if you haven't already. Read DR first. After... is great for giving you a better understanding of your feelings as well as your H's. It will tell you what your H is going through and how to help him cope. Since communication is a problem, you should definitely get TFLL. It could help you learn how to better communicate with your H. When you learn to speak his love language, he will hopefully reciprocate in your love language. Hence, better communication between the two of you.

Whatever you choose, you need to work on you. The better you feel about your life and/or yourself, the stronger you will be to reach your goal.

Be strong and good luck, Heather.