I tried writing a few letters, b/c I too thought that would be helpful. When we talk, we argue, and when we argue I walk away knowing I said things I didn't mean and wondering how much of what he said he really meant. Communication is soo hard for us. The only comment he made about the letters I wrote was about something I said to the effect of "Obviously there is one thing in particular I know I should not have done. But I would not be the person I am at this moment, and I believe I have a better understanding of myself , our marriage and our family now. I honestly do not know that I would trade that to go back in time". Maybe that was not such a good thing to say? Ouch, I wasn't trying to sound like I wouldn't take back the breach of trust if I could.....I only wanted to convey that I HAVE learned from this. Do I sound totally insensitive?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
