Is this really so insurmountable??

[heatherg]

Thanks for the comments. Yes, I have ceased contact with the OM from the moment I told my husband, not as much as another phone call.
I really do understand that the emotional betrayal is there regardless of the fact that I did not sleep with the guy. It has been seven months and I'm just frustrated. I was honestly ready to leave when I found DB. My papers are ready for signature with my lawyer and I was emotionally at a place where I could have left H. But cannot cope with not being able to see my children half the time. That would kill me, pain far worse than what's going on here. I feel discouraged. I'm 30....I want to have sex and H won't even kiss me for crying out loud. What if a year goes by and he still hasn't made any physical advances? Like I said before, we had re-established an intimate connection about two months ago, but I would not go there again unless he was willing to let go of the "no kissing". If he's emotionally healed enough to have sex, is he not emotionally healed enough to kiss me?? And emotionally healed enough for me to be allowed to sleep in my own bed??