That sounds a lot like what my pastor said when I talked to him before filing. He told me that my filing would not be my ending the marriage because "you're (K) not in a marriage right now." It's true. I wasn't and I'm not in a marriage.
Quote: My main regret is that I was not able to really spot this
Dump the regrets. They won't help you get her back, or help your kids, or help you get a good night's sleep, or help prepare you for a loving R with someone else.
You did everything you could to save your marriage. At that time it could not be saved. If at some future point XW is ready to be in a marriage and if you are still available and willing, maybe it can be restored. But just take care of yourself and your sons for now. Anything/anyone else is not your stuff anyway.
Thanks,
K
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