Good for you. The stepkids issue has got to be one of the toughest situations that can face a marriage. Wham, instant family.

If you really don't want her back and I suspect you really don't then it is right not to contact her. There will come a time where quite a few of us will have to recognize the harsh reality of divorce. I don't blame you for not wanting her back. She hasn't given you any reason to want her.

Taking a stand one way or the other is really all we can do. Either decide we are in or out.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt