How long do you wait to start experimenting again?

[Just_Me]

You know that I'm just going to keep bugging you and arguing the opposite point don't you? In response to this:

Hmmmm, this is a bit beyond what I understood DBing to encompass. I am thinking about it...would it be too chicken to test the water with an email.

That's the question isn't it? What does DBing encompass. In our situations as already divorced or when we are separated we usually think about it as LRT or going dark. That was only one possible way to DB. It was a suggestion, especially when they have moved out. BUT (note the big BUT here) I think the most important premise of the book is that you DO WHAT WORKS . Can you really tell me that going dark is working? Experiment and monitor results. If negative...don't do again.

I can tell you are nervous about getting shot down. I'm not sure that there is anything more impersonal than forwarding one of those chain e-mails. And if it is one of those ones where it says "forward to someone who is a friend or someone you care for" it will be major pursuit. As to an e-mail that says "Hi, how are you doing?"...I don't know. I might be biased, but I'm not that fond of that medium for this. The written word is too easy to misinterpret based on your expectations. I think you'd get a better feel from hearing her voice. Up to you of course.