I am going to own this board soon. My name is everywhere. I guess I'm having a slow day at work. Can you tell?
Okay...so we know the problem. But we aren't looking for solutions. I have a feeling that after all this time that she isn't going to come crawling because you have gone dark. That simply is just not working. If you want this woman back (do you under her terms?) you need a different approach.
I don't want you to get in a sitch where she has to say "yeah I miss some of the good times" or where she tells you how bad you were to her spoiled daughter. That's R talk. I'm suggesting putting out feelers to see if it is possible to start working towards friendship. Just call her and say "Hi. Just wanted to see how you are? How are the kids?" If she hangs up on you, uses profanities, vulgarities, and obscenities, or threatens to have a restraining order block you from ever calling again then I guess you have your answer. But what if she chats with you? Can't you at least make up an excuse to call?
I don't know enough about your sitch to know if she hates you. It sounds like you don't know either. So what will it hurt to test the water a bit. Let her know you still exist.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
