Thanks for the advice Gabriel. I know exactly why she hung up on me. I was trying to do her a favor, but I am sure she didn't see it that way. I gave her notice that I would have to take her off my auto insurance policy since she had filed for divorce and started the time clock with the courts by having the case activated by serving me through certified mail. I could no longer accept her liability on my policy in that instance. I notified her in writing and gave her 10 days from receipt of the notice to get her own insurance. At 3:30 PM the afternoon of the 10th day, she called and left a VM saying if I could wait another 4 days, she would appreciate it. She had my home and cell phone numbers, but chose to leave the message at my work phone. I got the message the next day...and it was too late. I was calling her to make sure she knew she had no car insurance with me...she was angry...and irresponsible. Not my fault.
Anyhow, with respect to church...I think with summer visitation, I can do an even better job of going dark there, but I have seen her once in the last 3 months...that is all. I don't know where she is emotionally, or otherwise and am beginning to give up hope. Her immaturity with respect to her handling her issues and quitting our marriage in an attempt to simplify her life is not something I see changing as demonstrated by her behaviour, i.e., no communication unless it involves $$ coming to her, her lack of sensitivity towards my sons where she insists on invading their space in Sunday School and other things. She is a very slow and deliberate processor on most things, but our divorce was a real quick decision for her...I am not sure when she decided, but she told me 2 weeks after we had our last argument that she was leaving and filed 5 weeks later. She made it a point to tell me she was not considering reconciliation. I just have to leave her alone and let her miss me. Whether she will ever miss me enough is another question. I spoiled the daylights out of her and I guess that was not that important to her or she would miss it more already. I just don't get her statement "The reason we are not getting back together again is because you don't love my kids enough. It is my issue and I am not willing to do anything about it."
